Had an early run in school today, wasn't wide awake but had to make do with whatever I've got. 1st Lesson - WISP. In case those who do not know what it stands for, it reads: "World Issues: Singapore Perspective". A pretty relevant subject, with alot to question, and think about. A current topic we are working on is "Stereotyping".
And it had me questioning, "Why are there stereotyping, prejudice and discrimination?" Answer: That's because we choose to see the way we think, or No. A better word... "presume". That's when prejudice comes in. Many times in relationships, it is the same. I always realize there are weaknesses between a couple dispute, that only a 3rd party would have a clear overview on the problem. Most of which is trust concerned. A friend shares, I give my listening ear, comfort him/her, but will that solve any "trust" problems? Not at all. The "I suspect he/she is..." still remains, while the "Your lack of trust in me..." still rebuts.
I mentioned previously that humans are naturally too stubborn. We refuse change even when we know we have to. This particularly forms our stereotype view of a certain person, who commits the same misdeeds over and over again. Trust? How does it even exist if one is not a keeper of it. It takes two hands to clap, just like it takes two sides to make a coin. Many times i hear this: "In a relationship there is never right or wrong, there is only give and take." I would say two words: "BS (Bull Shit)".
In every dispute, there is always a RIGHT and a WRONG. You can have BOTH WRONG, or RIGHT but you can NEVER have NEITHER. Facts check. Pulling a right action to blend with the wrong, only encourages misdeeds to be done, by than, a wrong is seen as acceptable. Being an arbiter calls for fairness on all grounds. And NOT passing an arbitrary decision. Means, putting friendship/relationship, and any other form of kinship aside, is only necessary. Would you choose to give a bad advice over kinship? Or to divert the ball away by making it seemingly "fair", because both parties are close to you, when you know in your heart one is right while the other is wrong? That isn't true friendship or love. Therefore giving a just and fair judgement is only right. Even when the truth hurts. It's always better to know the truth than to be deceived by lies. As humans we practice biasness, just something way too common. We choose to hear one-sided stories, that's because we do not know, or are not in good terms with the other party. Naturally giving a one-sided judgement. This breeds discrimination.
To wrap things up, having the rights to do something does NOT make that action right. Once more, it all boils down to one word: "Choice". Neither end can be giving too much, while the other end keeps receiving. Knowing the truth behind this, you would realise there is absolutely zero love in all occasions and matters. Because Love means sacrifice. And Love IS sacrifice. You CAN give without Loving, but you CANNOT love without giving. Needless to say, love begets trust. And they work hand in hand.
Good Night~!
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